Thomas C. Kay Jr.

September 30, 1966 - January 12, 2022

09/30/1966 - 01/12/2022

Thomas (Tim) C. Kay Jr. passed away at home Wednesday, January 12th in Virginia Beach, VA. Tim was born September 30th, 1966 in Washington D.C. to Thomas and Judith Kay. He was a graduate of First Colonial High School in Virginia Beach. Tim was a life-long resident of Virginia Beach where he spent many years on the water whether on headboats, crabbing or enjoying fishing with friends on the ocean, Chesapeake Bay and sounds. Early on, Tim worked at a number of family owned and run small businesses including Tim’s Christmas Tree Farm and also at the Marshall’s Hotel where he enjoyed the young camaraderie among employees as well as the unique guest clientele from the Association for Research and Enlightenment (A.R.E.) across the street. His spiritual life was informed by the A.R.E. as well as his upbringing in the Episcopal Church.  Tim loved the outdoors and later worked at False Cape State Park, and as a surveyor for NOAA. He was an avid animal lover, and had a number of golden retrievers, yellow labs and barn cats at his residence in Pungo where he enjoyed rural life- hunting, fishing, pickling, gardening, and visiting local haunts like Munden’s, the Aviation Museum and Fish House. Tim participated in local enduro racing for several years and remained a NASCAR fan. He also enjoyed four-wheeling and working on a long line of Chevrolet trucks and Blazers. Tim loved history, philosophy, photography and spiritual discussions as well as striking up conversations about current events and appreciated a variety of perspectives and exploration of ideas with the many people who would visit the farm. He was a sports fan including the Washington Football Team, Pittsburgh Steelers and Virginia Tech football teams. He had a heart of gold and was a friend to all.
He is predeceased by his father, Thomas C. Kay Sr. Survivors include Tim’s mother, Judith Kay and sister Amy Kay as well as his extended family of uncles and aunts- Bob and Ginger Kay, Rita and John Boston and Gayle Rittelman along with related cousins and their families. 
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Arbor Day Foundation to support tree planting by clicking HERE
A memorial will be held in the Fall in Virginia Beach and dates/place will be updated on this website. For more information e-mail Amy Kay: [email protected]

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Kim Utley
3 months ago

Tim’s Christmas tree farm and Mundens. Alot of memories Tim. Good times. Rest in Peace my friend.

Joe Wool
3 months ago

Tim, rest in peace my brother we shared much of our young lives together and had many great times. Fishing , 4 wheeling, bonfires, listening to music. You are a kind and generous soul. I’ll always remember you and keep you close to my heart. We mourn not because you are in a lesser place, but because this plane of existence is lesser without you in it. Love you Timmy Tree

Helen McCarthy
3 months ago

I new Timmy for many years he was such a sweet man. I can always remember him coming to by house and bring his dog Bo who got along with my lab Chelsea (we would say they were boyfriend and girlfriend just so cute). There are so many memories of Timmy it’s hard to just pick one. My condolence go out to his Mother and sister. Timmy you will be missed.

Paul Arnold
3 months ago

My deepest condolences to everyone. Tim was always such a great guy and all of my memories with him are good ones. He will be missed and the world was a better place for having him here.

Uncle John, Aunt Rita, Cousins Jodi and Lyndi Boston
3 months ago

We always loved getting together with the Kays. We have such cherished memories of Tim as an adorable baby and little boy. Years later, having driven from Pittsburgh to Virginia Beach, our vacations were such a special time, with cousins Tim, Amy, Jodi and Lyndi together as they shared numerous, happy days together at the beach and at the Kay’s residence. I will forever thank God for those wonderful loving times together.❤️

Tom Dewey
3 months ago

Tim, your light ️ is with us all.

Tom Dewey
3 months ago

Stargazing and philosophical discussions on the tree farm.