Steven Wray O’Neal

January 5, 1965 - August 15, 2023

01/05/1965 - 08/15/2023

Past Services

Saturday August 19, 2023
11:00 am - 1:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions

Steven Wray O’Neal, 58, of Virginia Beach passed away in the early hours of August 15, 2023.  Born on January 5, 1965 in Norfolk Virginia he is the son of Jack W. O’Neal, Sr. and the late June Wray Critser.


Survivors left to cherish his memory include his Grandmother, Minnie O’Neal, his father Jack W. O’Neal, Sr, his brother Jack W. O’Neal, Jr., his sister Sandee Glasgow, his sister Karmie Lavoie, his brother Terry Critser, his sister Amy Harden, his girlfriend Cindy Doyle and a host of cousins, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces and friends.


Steven loved his family, friends, traveling and fishing.  Steven spent years working for his father, Wilson Contracting before taking a job at the Department of Defense, MWR for many years before retiring.  Steven enjoyed travel across the United States and Ireland. He enjoyed the casinos in Atlantic City and Las Vegas. Last year he was able to enjoy the Grand Canyon, Yosemite National Park and the California coast.


Friends will gather together at Altmeyer Funeral Homes & Crematory – Southside Chapel, 5033 Rouse Drive, Virginia Beach, VA  on Saturday, August 19th between 11 a.m. to 1 p.m..  If attending, please be comfortable; khaki shorts, short sleeve shirt and your sneakers or flip flops.  Steve would want you to be comfortable.


A special thank you to Jack, Sandee, Karmie and Cindy for the love and care throughout the last 6 months. Gentiva Hospice for their special love and care during his last days. Special thank you to Cora, Carmen, Ruby, Naiza and Marylou for the around the clock care and love you provided to Steven.  In lieu of flowers, a donation to the American Cancer Society in his memory will be sincerely appreciated. Donations may be made by going to or by clicking “HERE”

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dale kelso
1 month ago

I have known Steve since we were kids. A truly genuine, funny, mischievous (in a good way) friend. Good thoughts and prayers to all family. You will be missed my friend. Bless you all.

Dale and Rosie

Denise Ralston
1 month ago

Please Lord embrace Karmie and her family whose hearts today overflow with grief. The passing of Steven Wray, has given them a sense of great loss. Please grant them space to express their tears, hold them close and give them peace in the coming days. With many blessings and prayers, we love you all.
Denise & Bryan

Yolanda Whitley
1 month ago

I have known Steve for over 20 years. He was a good friend and co worker. Steve had a huge heart, caring, funny, joker and very hard worker. His grandmother always had a special place in his heart as well as his family. My heart goes out to the O’Neal family.
He truly loved the Redskins and I loved my Cowboys. We would go at it during football season. He would always say that he would convert me. He put a paper on my windshield of my car said GO REDSKINS when I leave to go home there it is. He would sneak into my office hide yellow sticky notes that say “Yolie#1 Redskins Fan”. I would not notice them right away. I would find them everywhere inside my desk when I pull out a drawer, behind my hanging calendars when I turn the page for the next month there it is sticky note. I would call him and he would just laugh and say”did I convert you yet?” This would go on and on. When football season starts this year and the years to come, I will always think of you my friend. Untill we meet again Love you Steve!

Wayne Page
1 month ago

I’m saying good by to a good neighbor and friend . I will miss stopping by having long conversation about family and the Cowboys n Redskins. He will greatly be missed.
Wayne 🙏

1 month ago

Steven, my handsome little brother. Love you more than you will ever know. Give me a sign when you’re around; I’ll be looking. It’s not goodbye It’s until we see each other again

Allan Ritz
1 month ago

Steve was an amazing person, I had the pleasure of knowing Steve and working with Steve for some 15 to 20 years. He was always first in line to volunteer for the toughest projects and always yielded exceptional results. Steve had all of the traits of a great person; Honesty, Trustworthy, Loyalty, Generosity, and no doubt Conservative. We shared many similar views of the world which let to some interesting conversations over the years. The O’Neal family has a special place in my heart, Jack Sr and Jack Jr are also very special people. God bless you all.

Fernando Leos
1 month ago

I worked for Steve about 17 years.He was always highly motivated and the hardest working supervisor I have ever met.Steve would take us out, the whole crew to dinner after finishing a big job, no other supervisor at mwr had ever done that for us.
Under all that tough talk and carrying on there was a kind man.He will be missed.
My condolences go out to Jack Sr.Jack Jr and the rest of the family.
May the Lord our God keep him and may he rest in peace.

Russell Simpkins
1 month ago

I had recently reconnected with Steve on Facebook I moved from the beach 20 years ago. Steve was an extremely good friend to me in elementary school and not many people knew how much of a part he played in my life, I was hit by a truck on Great Neck rd. and Wolfsnare midway thru the first grade Steve became my big buddy and protected me for the next 4 years while I healed, nobody touched me without dealing with him. I will always remember afternoons spent playing pinball at the hot dog joint at London bridge with him, or riding bikes thru the woods. Rest well old friend, until we meet again in heaven.

Ruth Carpenter
1 month ago

I know your family will miss you greatly. You lost the battle against cancer, but you have victory in Christ. When we all get to Heaven we will have a great cookout by the sea. What a day that will be!

Stephanie Carpenter
1 month ago

There is no more pain from this world you have to endure. You will be missed dearly ,Steven. Rest in Peace with the Lord now. Until we all meet again at heavens doors. Love you
Stephanie Carpenter