Melissa “Missy” Deardorff

May 27, 1971 - August 17, 2020

05/27/1971 - 08/17/2020

Past Services

Wednesday September 02, 2020
3:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions

Melissa Ann Deardorff, “Missy”, 49, received her Angel Wings on August 17, 2020.  She was born on May 27, 1971 in Johnstown, PA.  Missy graduated from Johnstown High School in 1989 and later went on to graduate with her Bachelor of Arts from Duquesne University in Pittsburgh, PA, and then her Master of Arts from Regent University, Virginia Beach, VA.  She was a proud and active member of Alpha Phi Sorority. 
Left to cherish her memory is her mother, Carol Deardorff-McCaffrey; brother, John H. Deardorff, III, both of California; step-brother, Michael Cammarata, of Florida; her partner, Ronnie; and many dear friends. She was preceded in death by her father, John H. Deardorff, Jr. 
Melissa often spoke of her furry babies and anyone who knew her knew of her love for her beloved Buddy and Brody who brought her many years of joy.
Melissa was the most kind-hearted, compassionate, fun, selfless, patient, strong and courageous person.  She brought joy to so many just by walking in a room.  Melissa was a loyal friend, sister, daughter, niece and partner.  She was the sparkle that others needed when they were down.  Melissa developed endless bonds and relationships with so many people who will cherish her sweet memories forever.
Missy spent over 20 years in the healthcare field where she recently held the position of Senior Clinical Sales Account Executive at Gentiva Health Services.  She was more than an Account Executive to her clients, and many were happy to call her a friend.
Missy lit up her corner of the world with her huge heart and sparkling blue eyes.  She touched the lives of everyone that was fortunate enough to have known her.  She developed endless bonds and relationships with so many people who will cherish her sweet memories forever.
Missy loved those closest to her with an unparalleled ferocity, often putting the needs of others before her own.  The world was a better place for her being in it.
May she Rest in Peace.
A memorial will take place Wednesday, September 2nd at 3:00 p.m. at our Southside Home. The service will be live streamed at this link at the time of the service and a recorded version will be available soon after to view. Remembering Melissa

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MJ Neumann
2 years ago

Hey, Miss-
I had written a note for you to be read at your thing last Wednesday, but Debbie forgot to bring it. It took me forever to write it because I couldn’t see through all my tears, and I had to keep stopping to blow my nose…
I wanted to give it to you in some way, so thought I’d put it here for you…

Missy D.

I am at a loss for words to describe the pain I feel right now…
Your laugh – oh, Missy – your laugh!! You laughed with every fiber of your being. It was one of a kind, contagious, and always got us in trouble in the – oh, so many classes we had together…
Your smile…
Your eyes…
Your joy – Mike Owens reached out to me when he heard the news, and he said that you were “the embodiment of joy”, and I have to agree with him. Your beautiful soul had such a positive affect on people.
Your devotion – there was not a more devoted, loyal, “I-got-your-back” friend than you. Period.
Your love…
Just as you laughed with every fiber of your being, so did you love. Your love was all encompassing and unconditional. The way you always told me “I love you” and always signed “I love you” at the end of each and every note you passed to me in class- except in French class, that is. In French class, our notes were in French (as much as possible because Madame Tanchick insisted that everything in her classroom was done in French. ;)) In French class, it was “Je t’aime, toujours”, and when we wanted to communicate in code: “Olive juice, toujours”.
I wasn’t used to someone loving me so fully and completely – to the point where, in junior high, I questioned if you “LIKE-liked“ me. “I love you dearly, not queerly” you would say! 😉
Oh, Missy…
Missy D, I am eternally grateful that I was one of the people that was able to experience your love. Sometimes, I think that I wasn’t worthy of it.

Olive juice, toujours.

Your “Esther”,

Debbie Helsel Moore
2 years ago

Sending love and prayers to Aunt Carol & John.
Reminiscing of babysitting John & Missy when they were babies, wonderful snuggles and fun.
Beautiful tribute today for our precious Missy.
Love from your cousin, Debbie

Debbie Helsel Moore
2 years ago

My heartfelt love to Aunt Carol and John.
Beautiful memories of babysitting John & Missy.
Loved the snuggles and fun when they were babies.
Wonderful tribute for a wonderful girl today.
Prayers and love from your cousin.

Cousin Victoria Lee
2 years ago

Cousin and niece Missy,
The love that you have shared and all of the lives that you have touched, was very evident in today’s memorial service. Truly an angel on earth that will be missed by many. We will continue to love on your mom and John.
We thank your VA friends and co-workers for allowing us to view your memorial service.
Uncle Gary, Aunt Barbara, Geff, Victoria and “Lance a lot”

Christine Owens
2 years ago

MissyD. You are loved by so many and have left nothing but wonderful memories for me from twirling batons when we were young all the way through high school. The band camps and baton camps, half time shows at the football games and competitions. The fun times, the laughs and good energy is what stays with me in my heart. You will always be loved. You earned your wings dear friend. Fly high!

Andy Warden
2 years ago

Prayers for your family during this difficult time. It was great getting to know you over the last several years at Kindred at Home. You will be missed!

Courtney Rethwisch
2 years ago

My deepest condolences to Ronnie, Carol, and John. She was an amazing beautiful soul that was loved by everyone she knew. My heart is broken. Heaven just gained a beautiful angel.

The trofino Family
2 years ago

Dearest Missy-You are with your beloved father and one day will be with the rest of your family. Always remember that you were the shinning light in your Mom’s heart and the ever guiding light light in your dear brother John’s life. Be at peace with your Dad in the Lord’s house.

Krystal Lathrop
2 years ago

My deepest sympathies and love go out to the family and friends of Melissa. I did not know her personally, but I know her Mom. Knowing how amazing Carol is makes it to where I can imagine how amazing Melissa was! Such a beautiful family XOXO

Toi McGlothin
2 years ago

My thoughts and prayers to Melissa’s family and friends. I have known Melissa for many years. When I was pregnant with my oldest son, she brought my first baby shower gift. It was always a pleasure to see her when she would stop by the facility and if I missed her, she would leave little love notes under my door. I am truly going to miss our visits and talks. Rest well my sister/ friend ❤