David Wayne Carlile, Jr.

January 4, 1981 - May 9, 2023

01/04/1981 - 05/09/2023

Past Services

Wednesday May 17, 2023
1:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions

David W. Carlile passed away peacefully after a long illness in Sentara Hospital in Virginia Beach with his loving husband, Bryan, and his fellow Navy Sailors by his side on May 9, 2023.

David was born on January 4, 1981 in Rome, New York to proud parents, David W. Carlile, Sr. and Connie (Nernes) Kangas. David was educated in Rome Schools and involved in sports, boy scouts and church activities, but his real passion was the theater. As a child and young adult he performed in numerous performances with various groups including Rising Stars and Broadway Bound. He had roles in Kiss Me Kate, Godspell, etc. He loved being on stage and he enjoyed all aspects of the theater from production to directing. He was also a very talented visual artist.

He graduated from Westmoreland High School and attended Mohawk Valley Community College for Criminal Justice. While in university, he worked at Toys R Us and assisted in opening up new stores in Rochester and Times Square, but decided instead on a career in finance. He said he liked how dynamic the markets were, so he went to work at the Bank of New York and worked in Manhattan helping to diversify after the collapse of the twin towers on 911. David then proceeded to get licensed with his series 7, 6 and 63 licenses and worked as a financial advisor. David was active in the community. He ran for the office of County Legislator and served on the board of Steven Swan’s Humane Society. David loved animals and was a lifetime supporter of the ASPCA.

At 33, David decided he wanted to travel the world and he proudly joined the U S Navy. He was assigned the USS Harry Truman and was able to travel to amazing places such as Dubai and Southern France, but he enjoyed Bahrain, Crete, Croatia and England the most. David was most touched by the rise in Navy suicides and even lost a close friend, so he was passionate about helping in any way he could by working with the Stop Soldier Suicide organization.

On November 6, 2015, David married the love of his life, Bryan Polczynski, and they set up their new home with their pup, Cody in Virginia Beach.

David leaves behind his mother and father. He also leaves his sister, Emily Seelig, Rome, New York, his sister, Elizabeth (Kangas) Bishop, Fort Mead Maryland, and his brothers, Stephen and Jacob Kangas from Rome, New York, He leaves his loving husband, Bryan and his very special pup, Cody.

David was a shining star, full of compassion and wit. He was kind and non judgemental. He was passionate about making the world a better place, one kind act at a time. He was especially caring towards the vulnerable and was always there to be a good friend, a listening ear, or to give a big “David” bear hug. He is sadly missed by all who loved him.

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Zachary Baer
6 months ago

I worked with David at NRC Norfolk and in my time knowing him, he would always take the time to ensure that his fellow peers were okay in any and every sense. There were many times where I would be going through my own personal adversity, and he would offer to have a caring, gentle talk, devoid of judgement or prejudice.

When my car was unable to get onto the base and I had no where else to go, David would offer me his couch at anytime for any reason.

When things went wrong, he gave it his all to the best of his ability to make things right.

When his mind gave way to his own personal horrors, he still has the courage and tact to put those feelings aside to help the broken, the lost and the damned.

I now miss the sweet sound of his voice, the immense Family Guy references, no matter the context, his innate ability to connect with people on a deeper level (for he knew true suffering).

To Bryan, his mom and siblings and to all that knew of him, please accept my deepest condolences and sympathy in this trying time.

And to David, I will forever miss you.

Lucille Dunuec
6 months ago

I met David when he became a financial advisor. We became fast friends as he introduced me to Bryan and the rest of his buddies. I am devastated by the loss of him. I will miss his bright, charming ways. To Bryan, his mom and siblings and everyone who was fortunate to know him, my sympathy.

Cheryl J Skinner Tri-State Military Museum
6 months ago

May the love of God surround you and your family during this difficult time,

 May you come to know that the love of God is with you always,

May your memories of David Wayne Carlile Jr., give you peace, comfort and strength…

Rest now in the arms of our Lord your mission on earth is complete.

I thank you for your service to our Country and my Freedom. You will not be forgotten.

My thoughts

and prayers to the family of ….

US Navy Veteran, David Wayne Carlile Jr., is “A True American Hero” God Bless†

† Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. John 15:13 †

Daniel Patrick Fluharty, NBCT
6 months ago

As a former teacher of David’s it breaks my heart to read this. My sincere sympathies to his loved ones, family, and friends.