Anthony (Tony) D. Bender, 38, passed away on March 17, 2017. Tony was born in Langley, VA to Thomas Bender and Vickiane Wigdahl. He graduated from Menchville High School in 1997. Soon after, Tony joined the United States Air Force and proudly served 18 years before retiring. After his retirement from the Air Force, he worked on NAS as an electrician.
Left to cherish his memory is his loving wife, Rachael Bender; son, Michael; daughters, Catherine and Aurora; mother, Vicky Bender; father Thomas Bender; brothers, Alan and Billy, also he will be missed by nieces, nephews & many friends.
The family will receive friends on Wednesday, March 22, from 4pm until 6pm at Altmeyer Funeral Home Southside Chapel, 5792 Greenwich road, Virginia Beach, VA. A funeral service will be held on Thursday, March 23, at 10:30am at Altmeyer Funeral Home Southside Chapel. Burial immediately following at Albert G. Horton, Jr, Memorial Veteran Cemetery, 5310 Milners rd, Suffolk, VA 23434. Express condolences to the family at www.altmeyerfh.com
Anthony David Bender
December 22, 1978 - March 17, 2017
12/22/1978 - 03/17/2017
Past Services
Visitation
Wednesday March 22, 2017
4:00 pm - 6:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions
Service
Thursday March 23, 2017
10:30 am
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Southside Chapel
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions
5033 Rouse Drive
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
(757) 422-4000 | Directions
Cemetery
Thursday March 23, 2017
1:00 pm
Albert G. Horton Memorial Veteran Cemetery
5310 Milners Rd.
Suffolk, VA 23434
757-255-7217 | Directions
5310 Milners Rd.
Suffolk, VA 23434
757-255-7217 | Directions
I would like to share my deepest condolences for Tony’s Family. I just learned of his passing when sharing with my daughter who my first boyfriend was. I was 14 at the time. As I was telling her the story of how I met him, I did a quick search of his name and was overcome with sadness when I read his obituary. He was a wonderful person and I’m so very sorry for his family’s loss. Thought I’d share this photo.
Honey you have no idea what a void you have left behind. You had a wonderful life You lived it brilliantly. I am so sad because of your passing because you being you made me better. You have always been my motivator. All a parent can ask of their child is to live a life makes a difference in this world. You have done that in many ways. It was always my honor to be your mother. I told that to you often because it was true.
Just before I retired from civil service Tony came to my office talk to me, he said don’t you go home and die. Because a lot of people retired and die, he cared a lot about the other people, he was worry about me . I am so sorry he went before me!
Just before I retired from civil service Tony came to my office talk to me, he said don’t you go home and die. Because a lot of people retired and die, he cared a lot about the other people, he was worry about me . I am so sorry he went before me!
I don’t have many memories as I just recently meet you but all the stories I have herd from Alan and the family tell me just how great and wonderful of a person you truly were. My heart goes out to Rachael and the kids as they deal with this unbearable and unimaginable pain of losing you you were one of a kind R.I.P Tony I know your looking down on everyone and I hope we all make you proud and smile.
When you invited us to your retirement cerimony as we were your “adopted family” Thank you for being such a good friend! So happy to have shared our lives together; our children became good friends and so did we! Shared Birthdays together yr after yr! Shooting targets on our property!!
Rest in Peace Tony.
It was my honor to put together your final military ceremony. You became a great friend to me these past couple of years. You will be missed, Tony.
You are in our prayers!
You are in our prayers!